I was reading Freeda's post about "appropriate attire", as we share the same (largely insane but not always wrong) mother, I figured it would be fun to pick up on the conversation....
When I was in high school, the dress code was very strict. Absolutely no shorts or sleeveless tops, no sweatpants, no objectionable content on T-shirts. I had a cute tank-top dress I not only had wear a T-shirt under to not be sent home from school, but if I wore it elsewhere without the tee I had to wear it backwards, because my parents thought it was too low in the front. But it still looked good backwards....
After understanding more about my body and fashion, I realize I have that problem a lot because I have a short torso. What's just fine on someone else looks tarty on me.
Funny note about the "no shorts" rule: the boys staged a protest, because girls could cool off on a hot day by wearing skirts, but the boys were not allowed shorts. So a substantial number of them showed up to school on a designated day in skirts. They were not sent home.
I've seen many people dressed completely inappropriately for being out of the house, let alone in court or for work. I have seen, with my own eyes, pajama pants in court. Only once, since I moved to where I am now, have I seen a judge kick someone out of the courtroom for skimpy clothing. And, in my opinion, it should be happening every day!
Even in a professional environment, I've seen cheap, ill-fitting clothing and dirty hair, capris and open-toed shoes, and incredibly loud and outdated suits on the lawyers; and super-tight and short clothing on interns. I never saw anything like this in my hometown legal community. Appalling.
One intern had gained weight and honestly had no money for new clothes. I wish I had cleaned out my basement sooner than I did, but at least she has decent stuff now, because I gave her a couple grocery bags full of "office-appropriate" clothing.
Another intern showed up to my husband's birthday party in something kind of like this. Admittedly, the fabric was better (not as skeezy), and it was a little longer... but still! I know the exposed zipper is trendy right now, but to my eyes it looks slutty, like you're just asking people to unzip you!
Was I wrong to be unhappy that this type of dress, accompanited by 5-inch patent peeptoes, was worn to a party that was with and for her supervisor/my husband? I thought this dress totally appropriate for a night out with the girls, or on a date. But not while hanging out with me and my husband!
My parents were very strict about "dressing for the occasion" , and made damned sure we knew the standards. Dresses or dress pants with dress shoes and a nice blouse for church, weddings, graduations, etc. On a regular day, I could get as crazy and colorful as I wanted, as long as I stayed within the modesty bounds set by my parents. And boy, did I ever!
Flash forward to now, when Stinky complains because I don't let him wear cheap sweats or stained T-shirts to school. He tells me the other kids do, and I tell him that maybe their parents can't afford proper clothing, but we can so he's wearing it!
In the best shape I was ever in (six-pack, dancer's muscles on my legs), my skirts only went above my knee by a hand's width. My shortest shorts went well below my butt (hemmed/cut just below the saddlebags- haha) I didn't wear anything exposing even a hint of cleavage until I was in my thirties. I'm no prude, but I am disgusted with the amount of skin and clothing clinging so it might as well not be there at all, because we see everything anyway.
As I go through the workday, and see the heinousness surrounding me... I start to wonder if the Muslims are onto something. OK, OK... let's not go too far in the other extreme!
FYI: I was doing this entire blog from my Android phone, snatching moments out of my busy life for quick photos. But I hate auto-correct with a purple passion, so now I'm using the computer for most of the work. I am still using my phone for the photos, though. My photo sizes may be erratic, and the quality isn't stellar. I am not a professional blogger, and do not have time for lots of scenic poses with a great camera. I don't even own a great camera! However, I DO appreciate your continued feedback, even in the absence of photographic artistry.
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