DJ/Radio Producer-turned-Lawyer attempts to dress like a grown-up. Sometimes I comically fail. And I occasionally post fun stuff, like music videos, book-club reviews, or photos of beauty or oddity.
FYI: I was doing this entire blog from my Android phone, snatching moments out of my busy life for quick photos. But I hate auto-correct with a purple passion, so now I'm using the computer for most of the work. I am still using my phone for the photos, though. My photo sizes may be erratic, and the quality isn't stellar. I am not a professional blogger, and do not have time for lots of scenic poses with a great camera. I don't even own a great camera! However, I DO appreciate your continued feedback, even in the absence of photographic artistry.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Need some outside opinions today and "Friend Friday"

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I have a couple issues with my new jewelry (from a jewelry party) that just came in. So I need the stylish ladies from the internets to help me decide a couple things:

1. Are these earrings too big for me?

Too shiny, too "ghetto fabulous" for a lawyer?

2. Which collar looks better with my favorite pendant?

A. Hammered silvertone collar:

B. Hematite faux-braid collar:

This is pretty much the outfit I was going for when I accidently wore the wrong pants:

Now, even the right pants are starting to get really baggy. Whoo-hoo!

Top: VanHusen outlet
Jacket: VanHusen outlet
Pants: Lane Bryant
Shoes: Ariat
Earrings: Premier Designs
Silvertone collar: Premier Designs
Hematite collar: Lia Sophia
Pendant: purchased from an artist at the Kalamazoo Art (gallery) Hop

And for Friend Friday... this time it's about blog promotion:

1. How do you promote your blog?

I don't really promote it. I started the blog because I moved away from my family, and it was a long-distance way to do the critiques and kvetching we did in person before.

That said, I am really loving that other people read it, and they have valuable input. So I would like to expand that a bit, but I'm not treating it like a business venture (cards, conventions, etc)... It's really "semi-private"... I'm not hiding anything, but I'm leaving some information out because I don't want my clients to find it on a Google search.

I do try to leave meaningful comments on other fashion, beauty and lifestyle blogs. And I post with "Friend Friday"

2. In your experience what has been the most effective form of self promotion?

For me, "Friend Friday".

3. Do you think there is a wrong way to promote yourself and your blog?

Probably a generic comment with a website address. I don't mind when that's put on mine because I'm loving seeing what's out there, but I can see how it would irritate someone with a larger readership.

4. When is comes to others pushing their product what annoys you?

I suppose I haven't encountered that yet.

5. In Dressful's post on this topic earlier in the week she said, "It's impossible to respect someone who wants all the attention, but adds nothing worthwhile to the conversation." Do you agree?

YES! I'm stealing part of ModlyChic's answer because I love it: "Fashion and Beauty bloggers aren't all mindless superficial college drop-outs. We have thoughts, opinions, passions, desires and independence. We need to bring that to the blogging world and add to the conversation. And if there isn't conversation we need to start it."

Preach on, sister!

[Edited to Add: I don't understand a big push to get a lot of followers. But I love that my own blog has expanded beyond it's original purpose (for long-distance family and friends), and I get stylish, intelligent internet buddies!

And I love that my few readers can give me an objective eye when I'm not looking my best, and ideas on how to correct it. Just as I talk to other lawyers when I need help, I'm now doing the same with other bloggers.

And I like tracking back through commenters' posts, and have gotten several great ideas from reading their blogs.]


  1. The hammered is lovely. I wouldn't wear the earrings at work unless your hair is down.

  2. I really like those earrings. They are very much a focal point. Usually when I wear larger earrings I forgo the necklace. I worked at a large law firm and I have seen the women there wearing something like that.


  3. I think those earrings are perfectly appropriate for a lawyer, not too big at all. And I prefer the hammered necklace but I think the pendant goes with either!

  4. I like the earrings and both collars look good... the hammered silver is a bit more dressy. Love that pendant. Good for you on the baggy pants.

  5. I like the earrings and the hammered necklace - I think both would be appropriate (says the woman in the thigh-high boots, hee hee).

    I also don't get the rush to get followers or to make one's blog huge immediately. Mine has taken nearly 3 years to get 150 quality followers - and that's all through interaction with other bloggers. I left comments, checked out other bloggers whose comments I liked...and when someone comments on my blog, I always go visit theirs.

  6. I love the earrings. They look great on you.

    I'm not an expert on jewelry so take this opinion with a grain of salt: both collars look nice but I believe the faux-braid one looks better with the pendant. The wider hammered one competes too much with the pendant for attention.

    Your earring question reminds me of something. Mind if I share?

    I tip big. Really big. (30-50%) My wife Robin, when she was getting to know me, noticed this and accused me of tipping cute waitresses more than plain ones. I explained to her that that wasn't true. I said the correlation is not to a waitress's beauty but to the size of her hoop earrings. One with small hoop earrings gets 30% from me; one with big hoop earrings gets 50%.

    This may not make much sense, but Robin bought it. :)

  7. I tip big, but "rural big", not "City big"... Usually 20% unless service is subpar. I waited tables back in the stone age, so I rmember what it was like.

    It's so funny you *think* your wife fell for that. She's humoring you! ;)

  8. I love those earring! If you don't want them pass them on to me, lol. They are not too big for you even to wear for court. They give the right amount of bling and sparkle to a conservative outfit.